A lot of people would advise you not to be in a relationship when at university because it can impact your experience of student life. Meaning that if you’ve got a partner while you’re a student, you miss out on a lot of the fun that comes with student life. However, believe it or not, that doesn’t have to be the case. Yes, there are things you can’t do if you have a boyfriend while at university. But that doesn’t mean your time there has to be any less fun. Or, that you’ve got less chance of making lasting friendships. It all depends on how you manage your relationship.
With that in mind, I thought that I would share a few of the dos and don’ts of being in a relationship while at university. Whether you met your beau before starting uni or while you were studying, it doesn’t matter – these rules are still worth following.
Don’t neglect your friends
A mistake that a lot of students in relationships make is neglecting their friends. If you want to ensure that you have a good time while at university, don’t make the mistake of neglecting your friends. As well as making time to go on dates with your beau, it’s also important to make time for your friends. Or, if you’re in your first year, it’s important to make time to meet new people and make friends. Join clubs, attend student events, get to know the people in your class.
Do put your health first
At university, putting your health first is a must. This means making time to get the rest that you need, taking time out to unwind by yourself, and ensuring that your physical health is taken care of. Sign up to the local gym, and use it as an outlet for any stress. Don’t make the mistake of spending all of your time with your partner, make time to keep your body healthy. If you’re with a new partner, an important part of putting your health first is talking about contraception. It’s probably a good idea to sign up to your university medical centre. So that, should you need help choosing between microgynon contraceptive pill and the implant, you have somewhere to go for advice.
Don’t neglect your studies
In the early stages of a relationship, it’s far too easy to neglect everything except your partner, including your studies. However, it’s important that you make time for your education, to ensure that you don’t fall behind. Split up your time into time to study and time to socialise and make sure that you stick to your schedule. Say, for instance; you keep weekdays from nine am until five pm for studying, and then evenings for socialising. As for the weekends, aim to spend one day studying and the other socialising.
Do include your boyfriend (or girlfriend) in group activities
While it’s important to build your own life and make your own friends, there’s no reason not to include your partner in group activities. If you’re going for a night out with a large group, spending a day out somewhere, or simply having a movie night, ask your partner along. Just make sure to check with everyone else that it’s okay before you invite your partner along.
So there you have it, the dos and don’ts of being in a relationship while at university.