Being in a relationship can be one of the most exciting and overwhelming things in your life. It can be a whirlwind of romance, fun and emotion. It can be a real rollercoaster of a ride. But when you find the right person things just fall into place. You finish each other’s sentences. You know what one another would want or like. It seems easy. However, relationships can be a tricky business. Even the strongest of relationships can be subject to problems and drama. It’s a wonder why so many couples do stick together. But they do, because throughout it all love is a decision. You make a choice to love that person. Work out your differences and make that commitment. Or you choose not to.
I wanted to share with you some of the most common problems to occur in any relationship with some tips to combat it. Not every problem is fixable, but at least, you will know you have done your best. A relationship is a two-way street; it needs both of you to be on board. So without further ado here are some of the main problems you may face in your relationship.
Lack of communication
Not communicating with your partner is one of the biggest problems that can occur in a relationship. It’s the one thing you will find one or both of you saying at some point in your relationship. The thing is. At the beginning of your love story, things seem so easy. They are easy because you in that wonderful honeymoon period. The time where not one of you can do wrong. Where you are getting to know one another and everything is new and exciting. Then you settle. You are happy and content, and you settle. That’s when you are at risk of the lack of communication problem.
What most couples forget to do is talk. To talk about their days, their hopes, their dreams. Just like you would have done at the very beginning. This is because you get comfortable, and you just get on with your daily life. It’s easy to fall into the trap but just as easy to get out of it.
Making time for one another is the key to getting out of this period you are in. This could be a specific date night where you concentrate on the two of you. Or try and allocate some time at the end of the day where you talk to one another about things. You will see a huge difference in your relationship straight away.
Not wanting the same things
A big problem a lot of couples face is when one person does not want the same things as the other. There isn’t much that can be done about this. Just a decision that has to be made. One of you may want kids, marriage and the full works. The other may not do. Most of the time these conversations happen early on and you decide to either keep on with the relationship or go your separate ways. There isn’t much point in wasting one another’s time.
But what happens if those conversations did happen, and then one of you changes. What happens then? The only thing you can do is discuss it at length. Find out what may have caused the sudden change of heart and get to the route of the problem. Then you have the decision to make. Do you carry on with the relationship or do you go your separate ways? It’s always a tough thing to discuss, but with the right communication, you will come to the right decision for the both of you.
When one person ends the relationship hastily
I think every one of us will have been at this point. When one of you ends the relationship in the middle of an argument or hastily for one reason or another. There are a few different ways a relationship ends quickly.
- Mid Argument to get a reaction – Did you just scream it out because you wanted to upset your partner or get the biggest reaction? You may have said it hastily but ending a relationship mid argument can hurt. An apology may be your only option here. Communication will be key at this point.
- Being scared of where it is going – Being afraid of where your relationship is going, can be one of the biggest causes of ending a relationship. This is a difficult thing to conquer. Just vocalising your fears could have resolved the matter quickly.
If you find yourself in a position where you have hastily ended your relationship and you feel you have changed. Then you could try and get the relationship back on track. This may not be easy but proving to your ex that you have changed may be the best place to start. There are some fantastic tips on how to do this on ExBackExpertise.com.
Cheating on your partner
I don’t think cheating on a person is right, but I also appreciate that mistakes can happen. Cheating on your partner could cause many problems and result in a breakup. However, the best thing to do if you want to get the relationship back on track is to discuss what happened. It isn’t always the easiest thing to forgive, and it is even harder to forget. But sometimes your partner might be able to appreciate that mistakes happen. Sometimes people deserve a second chance.
It will take a lot of time to build up any trust again in the relationship. But if you both commit to it I am sure there may be a chance of a happy ending.
Finally, the last main problem a couple may face during their relationship is them drifting apart from one another. This can happen for many reasons. It could be that you lead separate lives and rarely do things together. It might be that you socialise in different circles. Perhaps you just don’t get time together. Drifting apart could be a relatively simple problem to fix. However, it depends on how far down the road you are. Drifting apart may cause you to question whether this person is right for you.
The best advice would be to try and rekindle the romance from the early days. Maybe a romantic getaway, a weekly date night, or just making time for one another. This should remind you how much you love one another and encourage you to make each other active parts of your daily life.
I hope this inspires you to work on your relationship more. Remember it is a choice to love, not just a feeling.