There’s usually never a ‘right time’ to make huge, life changing decisions- and waiting around for the perfect moment could lead to missing the boat entirely. When it comes to getting married if you feel that it’s the right time for you and your partner then that could well be all the motivation you need to pull your socks up and buy an engagement ring! However, there are a few things that are worth bearing in mind before doing so.
Do You Trust Each Other?
Trust is one of the most important parts of any relationship. You will never know where your partner is all of the time, as it’s important that you both still maintain your own interests and hobbies as well as the life you have together. So you need to be sure that when you’re not around, your partner will continue to be loyal and do right by you. Consider if your partner has ever cheated or been dishonest with you. If so, was this something you were able to overcome and resolve, and do you think they will do it again? If there’s jealousy and lack of trust there, you might need to work on your relationship more before getting hitched.
You Want The Same Things
When you marry someone, you are agreeing to spend your life with them. While two individuals are never going to see eye to eye on everything in life, it’s important that you do agree on the big things. You will need to discuss if you want kids, if you want to travel or if you will want to relocate for work in the future. Do you want to buy a house? Do you both have a similar outlook when it comes to finances? It’s important that you have these conversations before you get married to avoid confrontation later down the line. Discuss with your partner your absolute relationship deal breakers, that way there’s no disappointment once you’re married.
You Actually Love Each Other
This seems like an obvious point, but it’s worth mentioning. If you get married, make sure it’s for the right reasons- because you love the other person. Sometimes one member of a couple can feel forced into marriage and will go ahead with things to not disappoint the other even though their feelings have dwindles. Others get married because they’re lonely or think they’re ‘running out of time’ to settle down or find happiness. You should have strong, genuine feelings of love for your significant other before agreeing to marry them. If you look at celebrity engagement trends, you will see that both the summer and festive season were popular times of year to get engaged. So if everything is right and now feels like a good time- you could plan to do it in time for Christmas!
Well in advance of proposing, it’s worth having a chat with your partner and seeing how they feel about marriage. Make sure that it’s definitely something that they want and will be receptive too. If they are you can start planning for the big event!